I wish my teardrops were for something easy like a high school boy crush like for Taylor Swift. Unfortunately, I am an adult *barely, kicking and screaming* and mine have to do with my family. My family has put up a pretty good facade for the last 30 something years and it seems within the last 2-3 its ready to crack and crumble.
My mom and I had a long talk last week *I couldn't even talk about it till now* rehashing some of the past issues deeply connected to me. I found out information that had I been told at the time it was going on it would have made me feel better about the whole situation. To the point where I wouldn't have placed so much blame on everyone involved. There are issues that I know time can't heal. My mom says that I need to get over them so I can move on and not carry so much anger with me. I wish it was that easy. I started seeing a therapist a little over year ago that was spawned from current events in my life. Since my current life is pretty well situated (well as much as it can be) now we have started working back. It's rough. I don't even want to talk about it. Yet I will. Only because I don't want to be angry forever. We both ended up crying over the phone. I am the only child she can talk to.
I wish my family was more open with their problems. They are afraid of what other people will think. If they only knew that they weren't the only one's out there dealing with these issues. That they could get help either from outside organizations or just from family friends. I have a feeling that in later years I will no longer be associated with them. I will lose my last name when I get married and never look back. I can be motivated by a lot of things but no matter what I am losing I think that I will still come out better for not keeping some of the things involved.
P.S. Never tell your kids that they weren't the best kids that they could get. Because a) you have to look at the gene pool they came from and b) b/c they are still more successful than you are by a longshot. Well at least I am. I can't speak for the rest.
‘We hereby conduct this post-mortem’
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Family does not always consist of the best ingredients. I'm sorry for your woes, but it sounds like you're doing the right thing by talking through it in therapy. I find that once I develop the idea that I can let something go (family, a girlfriend, a job) it then becomes easier to address the problems and decide if there's anything worthy of saving. As long as I have the short-sighted view that my happiness and life ar forever tied to something (family, girlfriend, job) I feel nothing but despair and overwhelming frustration.
Oh boy. Hugs. Big hugs.
I just went through a lot of crap with my mom, found out some things I wish I didn't. I know how hard family stuff can be. I'm here if you ever need/want to talk!
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